by Dr. Elisebeth VanderWeil
I attended the Chick-fil-A Leadercast 2011 conference last Friday at their remote offering in Beckley, WV. This little, one-day conference, with the theme of "Voices of Change," was packed with engaging speakers, entertainers, and interactions that leveraged technology to make virtual feel more satisfying than merely watching a big screen TV.
Somewhere midway through the day I noticed something, a pattern that was underlying every presentation and most of the interactions around leadership. It was in every presentation, but no one said it overtly. Now, I don't mean to offend by using this f-word, but leadership in the 21st Century is becoming more and more feminine.
To be clear, feminine and masculine are not linked exclusively to anatomy, nor is leadership the pre-destined realm of one or the other. Our culture recognizes certain behaviors, values, and traits as emerging from one of these binary realms. Masculine tendencies include hierarchal positioning, aggression, directness, and an orientation toward outcomes. Feminine tendencies include equanimity, passivity, nurturance, and an orientation toward processes. We need all of these at different moments and in different spaces; however our culture has been dominated and out of balance for a long time. Happily our leaders, women and men, are recognizing the need for the dynamism available beyond cultural ideals and barriers.
John Maxwell's five levels of leadership outlined this new trajectory beautifully: masculine position-based leadership evolving to feminine permission-based leadership which further evolves to masculine production-based leadership which keeps moving into feminine people-development and reaching the pinnacle of respect-based, balanced leadership. Seth Godin, that guru of the geek world, emphasized how much we need artists ("difficult button-pushers") to innovate and inspire smart organizations to move away from treating people as machine parts on an assembly line.
Jeremie Kubicek declared "leadership is dead" because leaders need to "give yourself away to others," a feminine trait that has been toxic for women who take it to the extreme and the absence of which has led to the toxification of many, many organizations. Coach Mack Brown emphasized the experience of success in sports being a moment in the process of practicing for greater success in life. Sir Ken Robinson reiterated the importance of creativity as a means to put imagination into practice, as well as declaring, "Do what you love and you'll never work again." (Listen to that statement from both a masculine and a feminine stance.)
Erin Gruell, one of only three women presenting, emphasized the power of stories and how "leaders pay it forward" through teaching others. Frans Johansson proclaimed "diversity drives innovation" and how 21st Century organizations need to tap into the power of intersections. He also brought up the truly frightening fact that exemplary leaders try out far more ideas than other leaders. Seems like a good thing, not a scary thing, until you think about the fact that this means experiencing a lot more failure and making far more mistakes while finding all those ideas that really work. Suzy Welch asked us three questions to discern our deep values around legacy, character, and authenticity as the means to making better decisions – even the decision to risk failure.
Alison Levine, who led the first women's team to the summit of Mt. Everest, showed us that reaching the summit necessitates a lot of backtracking, acclimating to hostile environments, listening to yourself, remembering your responsibility to others, patience, and focus. Her declaration that, "Fear is okay. Complacency will kill you," really crystallized what every speaker had shared that day.
Every speaker – ten men and three women - at Chick-fil-A Leadercast 2011 stressed the importance of the feminine values and behaviors - caring for others, attending to the process of achievement, artistry, acceptance of failure as learning, and integrating diverse perspectives into powerful effect. Women have shown the capability of embracing and activating masculine traits, behaviors, and values for centuries. I am delighted to see evidence that leading men and women of the 21st Century are embracing their subtle, feminine "voices of change" to revitalize these traits, behaviors, and values to bring our culture into balance for everyone's gain.
VanderWeil works as the Director of Organizational Leadership at Mountain State University and holds a PhD in Leadership Studies from Gonzaga University. Her seemingly disconnected yet thematic work experience has provided her with the skills and experience to remain curious, flexible, decisive, and knowledgeable in many realms.